I harbor no ill feeling toward she who lied to me.  I understand.  She was horribly damaged at a tender age.  That damaged child lurks just beneath the surface of a grown woman.  I see that child occasionally.  As I have gotten older I can't help but feel compassion for her.
That said, I deserve the truth.  I may not know the gory details of bad acts but I know enough.  None of that matters anymore.
“You will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)  I am not a religious person but this passage resonates with me anyway.